Siyazilawula we are in charge of ourselves

The Nguni saying is prevalent in African homes when the parents are feed up with their children’s behavior in their households. Now, the hierarchy of the African home dictates that  you will listen to what your parents say and they are always right no matter what. The parents will also remind you that they are the owners of the house and they can do as they please, you on the contrary are under grace and mercy of having shared the bloodline therefore mind your language and mind you step in their home essentially live in the house with the utmost respect. Should the parent feel that you are doing as you please you will be reminded that uyazilawula and that you have forgotten that there is authority governing  you in their house.


Take the pandemic and the measurements instituted to curb the spread of the virus. The president has put it in our own hands, the will power to fight the virus. Essentially, siyazilawula- we are doing as we please whether we adhere to the restriction placed is all in our hands. It would be fair to dub us a banana republic but in the same breathe not fair considering  that we are lead and we have an entire leadership consortium…


The only time one is allowed and given leeway to lawula (take charge) themselves is when they are able to get their own apartments and do as they please in that way setting far away from the parents that have invested blood sweat and tears raising a “good child”

About the author

Khanya Mali is a marketing and brand communications enthusiast with a penchant for building brands on both client and advertising agencies and a “creative” in his own right. “Insights are the bark to every wondering creative work”